So through a simple Status Update on Facebook by a friend, Fatima, a furious, heated conversation was unleashed. Who has it better, moms or dads? Men and women alike rallied on both sides, battlelines were drawn, emotions ran high, tensions rose comparable to the Cold War days. Below are my thoughts based on my experience.
In terms of difficulty, I will say that women have it 65% vs dad’s 40%, yes it totals to 105% because, well, 35% for the dad is just too little, but 50% just seems unfair to the mom.
Yes, the woman will experience some changes, morning sickness and an expanding belly. However, what most people who haven’t gone through a pregnancy don’t know is that during first trimester the woman will have an “enhanced” look to her, sure, there will be some morning sickness, but it’s a tradeoff as it is offset by bigger boobs and booty (we latin men have an appreciation for good round booty that seems to keep growing). Not all women experience bad morning sickness. So as far as the first trimester goes, we’ll say that the dad has the advantage with 65% because he gets a hotter wife with no side effects on his end; the wife gets 35% because of the enhanced looks with side effects.
Now the 2nd trimester: This trimester is awesome and it’s also the easiest! The morning sickness if gone. Then the wife is starting to show a belly. You find out the sex of the baby. Everyone is excited and congratulating left and right. Generally people wait until the 2nd trimester to let the general population know about the pregnancy. Consider this the “honeymoon” stage. So, I have to give the advantage to the dad 60% vs 40% mom because of the slight weight gain.
The third trimester: This is the tougher part of the pregnancy. The baby moves and you can see it! You’ll see an elbow, or a leg sticking out of the belly. It gives dad and mom a “glimpse” into their little one’s behavior. However, this is a 70 % disadvantage for the mom because she can’t sleep how she wants to and is awakened by the baby’s kicks, which in turns causes a 30% disadvantage to the dad as he is also awakened by mom trying to get comfortable. This is the stage that the mom is getting bigger (she’s hungry all the time), her back hurts, her feet hurt, extremities get swollen (can’t wear wedding ring) and by the last month of pregnancy, she waddles around like a penguin. Mom doesn’t feel as attractive — but this is a huge flaw. Any men will tell you that when his wife is pregnant, that alone, for some innate reason, some natural process, some inalienable truth, is a turn on. Don’t ask why or how it happens, it’s one of those things that just do, like the migration of birds. Knowing that your beloved is carrying your child, your seed, your lineage, your generation; that you will only get to see her like that maybe only once, maybe twice, maybe three or fives times in your life, that is a turn on. Besides, that’s the stage when she glows, literally, take pictures, you’ll see what I am saying. This is the stage when she’s most radiant, more beautiful in a profound way. Yet, she doesn’t see it and this is the part when intimacy becomes tougher. So before you give the dad 0% credit, know that he is more than likely sex starved and is walking on tip toes in case the wife has one of those emotional tantrums hot pregnant women have been known for.
10:21 AM - We are currently at the hospital while Monica is getting checked out. She is having contractions every two to four minutes. I’m running a quick test run on the live streaming to prepare for the actual live streaming.
10:31 AM – The doctor is checking Monica out so we will be offline for the next 30 mins.
10:45 AM – They just told Monica to walk for another 35 mins. Looks like we won’t be leaving here anytime soon…
10:47 AM – I’m going to walk with the hot pregnant wife. So, we’ll be offline for a few minutes.
11:20 AM – The Dr has said that she is about to break Monica’s water! Baby is on her way! Sorry, no live streaming for now…
12:13 PM – Monica’s water has been broken. She’s just laying and resting as the contractions get stronger and stronger. I’ll provide streams when possible.
What a great time! To all those who came, we thank you. We are very grateful for all the friends and family that made it out to Monica’s babyshower. We had a great time! We feel very honored that you took the time to join us through this very special “first” of our lives. Your presence really made this moment very special.
We would really like to thank our family for all the time, effort and dedication they put in to making this babyshower a success. We also would like thank our babyshower committee: Esperanza Burgos, Marilyn Downs, Claudia Bruzzo, Mariana Burgos, Leslie Shea, Claudia Urrutia, Aline Marques, Bianca Paolomeque, Richard Downs and Lucia Roe. These girls were mean, lean, hot working machines who put a ton of effort and heart into their respective duties. Richard did a ton of the heavy labor. I don’t think I could have assembled a better committee. We also would like to thank Eric and Karen for letting us use their house to party and get messy!
Below are some of the funny games you can only have a coed babyshowers:
***Update: Youtube is currently trying to fix a bug that slows down the video and creates a choppy sound for HD video, so the following may be in slowmo and really crappy sound (still funny to see though)***
The first one is called “Feed the baby”. This was hilarious! The men had to eat Gerber baby food, but it wasn’t any Gerber food, it was the nastiest flavors known to babies! I can’t believe people force their babies to eat that, they really taste terrible! Listen as all the guys taste the first spoonful of this delicacy and groan at the same time!
As each day goes by, I am getting closer to the day when I finally get to meet her, our little Sirenita. Her graceful and not so graceful movements let me know that she is doing ok. The life inside of me is growing and getting stronger each and every day. As I put my hands on my belly to feel her presence, she also feels mine and responds with a kick or a gentle push. It is amazing this feeling. We are all excited and getting ready for her arrival, this weekend is the baby shower and I am very excited about it and so are a lot of our family and friends. I am really thankful to all of them for their love and support.
I wonder how she will look like, how she will be, will she really come on October 30th or will she decide to surprise us? All the sickness, fatigue, headaches, cramps and even labor will be worth it to finally get to see her. I am a bit scared of the pain that comes with going into labor, but just picturing holding her in my arms is a reassurance that everything will be ok. I look at my husband and see how happy and excited he is too, our little family is growing and it is an amazing feeling. There is a lot for us to learn, and a lot that we need to teach her…but I know that with God’s guidance we will be able to do ok. I know I say this often, but again I can’t say or feel it enough that God is looking out for us and we are truly blessed.
